Complaining & the Law of Attraction
Your emotional thoughts emit frequencies (vibrations) that radiate from you and attract anything similar back into your life.
For the most part, people get a divorce because one or both, are no longer happy in the marriage.
It’s common to want to justify why the divorce was needed. Focusing on all the negatives. All the things wrong with the other person or the marriage. Without even realizing it, this can become a habit.
When you’re focused on all the stuff you didn’t like, not only does it make you feel bad, but you’re also attracting more of the things you’re complaining about to you. I know, in the beginning it can feel better to be angry and complain. I’m not saying you’re not justified. Your spouse may have been horrible. I get it.
But the question is // Are you ready to move on?
I’ve seen many people that let their past partner live rent free in their heads.
I know I did in the beginning. But isn’t the point of getting a divorce so that you don’t have to be with the person anymore and you can move on? If you stay stuck complaining and angry with them, you’re not that much better off than when you were married.
So the first step is wanting to change. You have to be ready and willing to start thinking differently and break the habit. This doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a process like anything else. But wanting to break the habit is most important. If your friend calls and the conversation normally flows to how awful your ex was, know in advance that you don’t want to go there.
Be proactive before the conversation goes in that direction. You can say something like—Can we talk about something else. It’s exhausting talking about him. What’s something fun we can talk about? Don’t even go there. It’s much, much harder to stop once you’ve started. With time you’ll get better and better. It’ll get easier and easier.
In the beginning, don’t beat yourself up. Some days you may just need to vent—just don’t live in that space. The goal is to start thinking and talking about other things. Anything you find interesting, that’s more positive.
